Well, the thing is, I did have one game I started a relationship with Kaidan....but I killed him in Mass Effect 1 for drama for my character. And while I do like Jacob, I felt Shepard's dialouge was out of character for her for such a nice guy (and am appalled by the butchery of his character in Mass Effect 3 conserning Jacob in a relationship). But the guy is voice by Freddy Prince Junior and is totally over-muscled. Not to mention he is a fill in character for new players.
yh i know what you mean about james when i play i always stay with kaidan, only cus of the sweet romanec they have together and that very sad scene at the end of mass effect 3, i swear down i cryed then and the fact you cant get of with james too WITCH is stupid cus he furlts with you ALL the time its not far